Try being more understanding.

Often, as observed, the reason most relationships fails is not because of a difference of opinions, or the desire for different things. Many relationships fail because of the lack of understanding. The Merriam Webster dictionary puts understanding as "a willingness to understand people's behavior and forgive them".
Understanding entails showing tolerance, sympathy and kindness to someone. Certain reasons can blur out the ability to be more understanding. I'll split this into three major reasons.
1. Selfishness: When we chase our affairs and are always bent on having what we want not minding whose feelings we hurt or how, we ditch out every reason to understand. Somebody once quipped, 'there's two sides to every question as long as it doesn't concern me personally'. But Paul writes: "be kindly affectionate to one another with [brotherly] love, in honour giving preference to one another." (Rom 12:10).

2. Fear: This is the second reason people aren't more understanding. Prejudice is often the fear of what we're unwilling to try and understand. When it comes to new ideas you've two options; to open your mind and grow, or reject them and stay the same way. We tend to compare what we don't understand with what we think we do, just like the folks who told Columbus the earth was flat. When it comes to building relationships you've got to be willing to do what you've not done yet.

3. Differences: This does a lot to maiming relationships when there's no understanding. It takes different fingers to make your palm. Several colours make up that beautiful rainbow. And again not one musician can make an orchestra. When we take time to appreciate the differences in people we discover we all share just about the same hope and fears. Even in the church, the Bible says " 5 And there are  differences of administrations, but the same  Lord. 6 And there are diversities of operations,  but it is the same God which worketh all in all. 7  But the manifestation of the Spirit is given to  every man to profit withal." (1 Cor. 12:5-7).

Let us learn to find excuses for other people's wrongs and mistakes, even that way our understanding of people, relationships, and differences will be broadened.
May the peace of the Lord be with us all.
Amen.
Emmanuel Chimezie.